It is so very difficult to sum up your self on your own. This is even more true when you are researching for a job or interviewing a potential partner. However, the fact is that these self-assessments are extremely important when doing just about anything outside of the normal day-to-day hustling and bustling that we enjoy so well.
Myself? I am the guy with the great hair and the fancy clothes. You? You are the guy wearing your parents’ graduation ring. I am self-aware enough to know that I often don’t know what I want to do with my life. You however, are not. This is what makes us human. We have a tendency to jump ahead of our selves when they seem to be going so well.
If you want to see how much we are self-aware in our day-to-day existence, just go find a bar and count how many of your friends are self-aware.
I have to think that this is actually a very common psychological reaction. A lot of people, when they get a little stressed or are in a bad mood, will give themselves a little “self-summary” and then blame it on their own actions and not their surroundings. That’s not really self-awareness, just a more subtle version of it.
Self-awareness has a few other meanings as well. When you look at yourself in the mirror, for instance, you will notice that your face is a little rounder, a little longer, and a little bigger than normal. These are all signs that your mind is awake and aware, even if your physical appearance might not be.
These are all signs of your mind being out of sorts and on autopilot. When you’re in a bad mood, your mind is racing and your thoughts are getting scattered. Most of the time you’ll come to your own explanation, or the explanation of someone else.
In the same way that the brain is constantly scanning the world around it and pulling random info, your mind is constantly scanning your body and pulling random info. Your body is a big part of your personality, which is why you have to be careful what you think and how you dress. When you are not in the mood to be in the mood, you are literally in a state of auto-pilot.
Well, you know what they say about nothing being quite as bad as nothing good. I’ve found that there is absolutely no reason to self-diagnose unless you really have no other choice. There are many self-diagnoses that you can make based on your day-to-day habits, habits that are actually quite common and useful. I think the most common one is “I’ve never been to a party before”.
If you’ve never been to a party before, you don’t need to go to any parties until you are old enough to enjoy them. If you have no other means of getting to a party, you can still get to a party. But you will definitely need to get yourself to a party. If you are not in a party mood, you will probably never get to one.
The first party was probably one of the most important of my life. I went to a big family party that took place every year. I was always there by myself and I loved getting to laugh with the other kids. I also liked to drink and party with my friends. They are always there, with their friends, not alone. Also I was always given a free shot at the bar.