be more prone to self-deception or self-blame.
There’s a good chance you’ve noticed how much you trust people. For instance, your parents, coworkers, and people you see on the street. And if you’re like most Americans, you’ve probably thought a little bit about this and wondered if these people are actually who they say they are.
Self-esteem is, in some ways, like the opposite of self-blame. For instance, we all have reasons for being angry, but a person who is angry for the wrong reasons is more likely to believe that everyone around him is out to get him than a person who is angry for the right reasons.
When I was a kid, I was constantly told that I was the apple of my father’s eye. I was also made to feel bad by his words and actions. And when I was in elementary school, I was constantly told that I was the apple of my mother’s eye. I was made to feel bad by her actions, too.
The same happens in adulthood. A person who is angry for the wrong reasons, in other words, is more likely to believe that everyone around him is out to get him than a person who is angry for the right reasons. And when I was in adult life, I was made to feel bad by my parents actions, too.
I think it would be fair to say that we all live our lives not knowing what to make of our actions. Or maybe we do know what to make of our actions, but we don’t know when to do so. And so we either make our actions and our responses really difficult to understand because we don’t know what makes us feel, or we just assume that because we’re a certain age, our sense of self-worth is less than it was when we were younger.
We might think that we are “good” people because we feel we are always being watched, judged, and evaluated by others. But our emotions are only as good as our self-awareness. And that’s where the problem lies.
So, just to be clear, you have to believe that you are good enough and feel you are good enough to go out and do something. You cant just go out and do something that you know you will regret.
The problem I see right now is that I feel so unworthy that I know I am unworthy of what I do. I don’t know how it is, but I guess when I hear people say they are so good that anyone can be good, I just get anxious. Because, as I told my student a few months ago, I am so good that I have to believe I am really good.
It’s a very difficult thing to do. We’re all so proud and confident that no one could tell us otherwise. In some ways, we’re so good that we can’t ever really believe we are really bad, because we have the self-assurance that we are so good that no one could tell us we were bad. So if you feel like you are being judged or rejected because of what you do, and you know you are, it’s very easy for you to become anxious.
